We like to identify with common, yet individual, things: Specific TV shows, books, musicians. It's helps us feel independent, but also part of a group. We get tattoos, posters, shirts; whatever helps us identify with other individuals who we can feel a part of a group of. But maybe we… Continue Reading 'Be proud of your journey'
Creating a business and losing weight. Two things that most folks have in common. Why is it that so many of us struggle to succeed at these seemingly basic goals? I have a hypothesis. Our society (at least the one I'm in) is great at romanticising these ideas, but terrible… Continue Reading 'Start a business now, ask me how!'
I think I've realized something about social situations and interactions. It's not that I have to not care about what other people think, it's that I have to not care that I care about what other people think. It's okay to want connection and look foolish/stupid going after it.… Continue Reading 'I don't care (that i do)'
I know, weird right? I never would have said that a month ago. But then I started reading Penn Jillette's new book "Presto", about how he lost over 100 pounds following a self-proclaimed crazy diet (he ate nothing but potatoes for two weeks at one point). While I… Continue Reading 'Want to lose weight? Stop exercising!'
It's better not to do anything at all, than to try something and have someone take it away. Maybe 'better' isn't the right word. Safer? No. Less risky... Okay, I can go with that. I struggle so much with control issues. If I feel like the result of my efforts… Continue Reading 'It won't fail because of me'
TL;DR I've made ~$6k building and selling an online course over the past 9 months. Hoping to at least double that over the next 6. So, this is my personal story of entrepreneurship that I thought might be helpful for folks to hear. I still "work for the… Continue Reading 'Here's my story so far, and my plan for the near future'
I recently read a fantastic post by a trans-man named Graham Daniels about his journey to discovering his true self. It's one of those posts that takes soul to write and a willingness to be vulnerable to publish. Which isn't how it should be. Coming out shouldn't be a big… Continue Reading 'I'm bad at diversity'
Depression is controlling. You don't want to feel better. You want to sulk. You don't want someone to help, because it would take away the pleasure of feeling bad. You certainly don't want some medication or therapy, because really you're just being melodramatic and don't deserve special attention. But you… Continue Reading 'Depression'
I'm good at visualizing success. It just comes naturally. I see it, me standing on a stage, ending my last sentence of a 50 minute talk with the perfect closing thought. The crowd has a moment of stunned silence, then erupts in to applause. Afterwards people are lined up waiting… Continue Reading 'Avoid failure by visualizing it'
I should meditate tonight. Even just five minutes would help. Really, the time would be totally worth it, because I'd be more relaxed, more focused and more productive for the other 1335 minutes of the day. But I really don't have time. The dishes still need to be done. And… Continue Reading 'Why I Can't Meditate'
To many, ADHD means you can't pay attention. While that's true, there are other parts to it. To me, this ADHD Acrostic I came up with illustrates all that I struggle with: Anger Distraction Hyperfocus Depression One of the more surprising parts (to me) of that is 'anger' aspect. I… Continue Reading 'How ADHD Affects Me'